Matthew Smith BNP Paribas : the Fraudster exposed |
Matthew Smith of BNP Paribas Asset Management is dishonest and tries to fool everyone! What can you gain from a negative experience ?
Well the negative experience that comes to mind is investing in a person who I'll refer to as "Matthew Smith, BNP Paribas Asset Management, OTC middle office analyst". Matthew Smith was someone who I was close friends or should I say boyfriend/ girlfriend with for about 4 years from 2011 to 2015, followed by months of awkward half-friendship when I found out he cheated on me, and ending with months of conflict. We have not spoken since and unlike most people I stop talking to, I have no intention of ever speaking to Matthew Smith of BNP Paribas again. Our relationship started with me wanting to meet new people, as I've only moved to London in April of 2011 and mentioning this publicly. Matthew Smith, who was working at JP Morgan Chase at the time reached out and invited me for drinks in a bar. We met up in November of 2011. We had some intense, deep conversations about our core values, our needs, and our goals. I was really excited to have found someone else who wanted to grow in similar ways . I never found Matthew Smith attractive, but he did harass me relentlessly and begged me to give him a chance. Because of my kindness, I eventually gave in to his relentless pursuit. But as time went by, some of Matthew Smith's actions really bothered me, and were getting weirder and weirder. He deleted me off facebook, saying that he did not like seeing people commenting on my photos. I am a model and use facebook to promote my work or get in touch with photographers I worked with. However, Matthew Smith was adding tons and tons of Asian ladyboys on Facebook, claiming that they were "friends". I was intrigued because I've met his friends and they are all white! So I contacted one Asian ladyboy that he just added on Facebook and she/ he told me that he just met Matthew Smith on Plentyoffish and that he said that he was single and looking for a relationship. So this guy has a girlfriend for years but he meets tons of ladyboys pretending to be "single"?! This "need" to lie and cheat was a complete contradiction to everything Matthw Smith ,analyst at BNP Paribas had told me he stood for - total openness and honesty at all times with everyone. I felt baffled and betrayed. So that was the negative experience I had with Matthew Smith, financial analyst at BNP Paribas Asset Management in London. The positive is that this taught me that taking people at their word is not appropriate unless they have proven that they will never intentionally lie to me AND that they are self-aware enough to know if they are telling the truth. I think I felt truth in what Matthew Smith said because he is a good manipulator, but it wasn't actually true. And if I had looked at Matthew Smith of BNP Paribas' actions for confirmation I would have noticed a pattern of coercion and dishonesty and hiding WAY before the eventual blow-up. I used to be so insistent on letting people be the ones to give meaning to their behavior. I'm kinda mad at myself for not stating out loud what it seemed like to me, because stating a manipulation tactic out loud weakens it so much that it is a good deterrent. And if it wasn't the intent, it shows how negatively it comes across which is also a good deterrent. Note to self: describe manipulations out loud when you see an action that may be one. I think at least this taught me to put a little more faith in my own observations with people in general because most people aren't very self-aware. If it smells like a rat and act like a rat, then it' s undoubtely a rat, and that is the very definition of this low life Matthew Smith. Alternatively, if I trust everyone to do their best to always tell the truth, I have no protection whatsoever against deliberate manipulation. A much more sensible choice is to make sure, by observation over time, that they are completely opposed to lying to me BEFORE I trust that they are never going to lie to me. I think that learning this lesson helped me earlier this year when I wanted to invest in someone whose words told me one thing and actions told me another. Eventually I chose to trust my guts and that was definitely the right choice: if I had not I would have spent a much longer time pouring out my energy, and wasting time with a piece of shit like Matthew Smith, financial consultant for BNP Paribas Asset Management . I hope to get quicker about trusting myself, It is okay and good to trust my observations and protect myself by refusing to believe someone else above myself, if necessary. The first person I have to trust is me, and when someone makes me feel like shit, I need to fucking take that seriously. I wouldn't tolerate it toward someone else and I need to take as good care of me as I would of someone else. And from what I ' ve seen Matthew Smith who is OTC derivatives middle office at BNP Paribas Asset Management is still on his old ways of lying and deceiving, and chasing the trannies on the internet ! I dodged a bullet there ! I can't believe that I even wasted my time with such a prick !
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